I recently moved residences and am starting over again as a single woman but now also as a mother. It is definitely a transition. It’s very important to maintain my peace. I realize that the more at “Peace” I am, the more at “Peace” my daughter is. That being said, I wanted our new place to feel as tranquil as possible. It wasn’t easy. My daughter was adjusting to her new surroundings and as much as she loves it, it gets tough for her. Add unpacked boxes in every corner, a crib mattress as a temporary couch and add living out of a duffle bags to the mix. Creating a Peaceful space seemed unrealistic. Then I remembered, “to have it sometimes, you must create it!” A routine and collaborated efforts gave our new apartment a serenity. Here’s how!
1. Keep routines that work.
After much trial and error, my 7yr old and I have some routines that are effective. One of them is the weekday evening routine of coming home after school, unpacking her lunch bag and knapsack, take a shower and do homework. This gives me time to make dinner and prep lunch for tomorrow while snagging a few quiet moments to myself in the kitchen. By the time she’s done in the shower, dinner is almost ready. After dinner and homework, it’s almost time for bed. Most nights, this works well. Becoming task-oriented as a parent is very common. As a single parent, those skills become more heightened.
The stress of it can be frustrating at times. I found myself feeling “Mommy Guilt” about this and wanted to build a closer relationship with my lil girl on a daily basis. So my daughter and I developed “Girl Time”. Each night before bed, if even for 10-15mins, we would spend time together doing things like tea time, color mandalas, tickle matches, journal writing, and anything else that we thought was fun and creative. I have found that this eases any tensions from the day and allows us to go to sleep in a positive way instead of the dreaded, Get to bed!
Results?!!! My daughter sleeps more soundly, It develops a Peaceful nighttime routine for the both of us. This is a great bedtime activity that encourages relaxation is a great way to help make the evening routine a Peaceful one. I asked my lil one, what’s her favorite part of her bedtime routine. Surprisingly, After Girl Time my daughter says she wants to sleep. Ha! Like most kids, my little mini likes to prolong bedtime. But not these days. Thankfully, we found a routine that works. Ask your mini what they like about bedtime? And capitalize on that! Share your stories with us by tagging us on Instagram @milknheels or facebook @milknheelsmag!